Before I started teaching Hebrew with Ulpan La-Inyan, I was practicing psychotherapy. I did a Masters at Pepperdine University in clinical psychology with an emphasis in marriage and family therapy.
One of the topics I got to explore a bit during the degree, but more so in a subsequent AEDP immersion course in Boston with a truly wonderful woman named Diana Fosha, was attachment theory.
Following that experience, as well as my involvement in a great organization that promotes relational health in the Jewish community, The Call of the Shofar, I have come to believe that attachment motivates virtually all human behavior. Everything we do stems either from the desire to love or the desire to be loved - and when we do damaging things, it's really our expressing frustration with not having gotten our core need met for secure attachment.
The Hebrew word for attachment is הִתְקַשְּׁרוּת (heet-kahsh-ROOT). The word comes from the three-letter root for connection - ק.ש.ר (k.sh.r.)
Techilo Abie - a friend of mine and the man who is translating Ulpan La-Inyan so that it can be taught to Ethiopian Jews - sent me the presentation that appears on the blog right under this entry. Use the arrows to move between slides... and if you can read Hebrew, take some time to follow the subtitles. They're powerful.
Also... listen and repeat!